Name:   Talullahhound - Subject:   I will never understand the culture difference Date:   4/17/2023 9:05:47 PM

I don't have personal expereince as you do, but I've lived long enough to observe brand new public housing go downhill into trash in a few short years.  There is a cultural difference.  I had a young man that worked for me - he was from the "hood, but had enlisted in the Navy and did pretty well for himself.  When he was 30 he came into my office one day and announced that at 30, he had achieved all the goals he set.  So I told him he set the bar too low for himself and that he needed to get busy studying for the promotion test and also to go acorss the parking lot and register for college and I would give him time off to do it.  And I was very proud of him as he worked very hard.  So fast forward a few years.  I had retired, he retired from the Navy and we were FB friends.  So when all the current race nonsense got started posting about how bad it is for his race and how the police are always harassing them.  I asked him point blank how often he had experienced that himself.  Starts telling me about his "cousin".  This went on and on and I would periodically ask him when something he posted about had been personally experienced by him.  Never got an answer and eventually he unfriended me.  

There is a culture of victimization.  An unwillingness to see that things happen and then strictly to attirubute it to racism, and not as the outcome of behaviors and attitudes. 

In the meantime, two of the dead have had GOFUNDME's set up to cover their final expenses.